The New Year is here! I am definitely a person that believes in New Year’s Resolutions. I use this holiday in a few different ways that I find beneficial to my mind, body, and soul. I reflect on my past year and I first acknowledge my victories.
What happened this past year that were great accomplishments? What was positive? I can think of big things like maintaining good health and success in helping others. Additionally, extremely meaningful things such as good time spent with my family, living more in the moment, improved organizational skills, and improved time management. After the victories, I then picture how I want 2019 to look. How can I improve even more on the things I did well in 2018? What little things make me happy and how can I implement those things daily? What could I have done better in 2018 and what is my plan to improve in 2019?
What I don’t want to be is the SAME person that I was last year. Yes, I am proud of that person, but I want to be an improved version of myself. I never want to stop growing, stop learning or stop improving myself. My goal is to continue to make myself proud of myself!
The years are going to keep going by. New years will keep on coming. We can’t let life pass us by. Be happy, be healthy, and live this life we are so fortunate to have – to the fullest!
Happy New Year. xoxo – Coach K
Making Resolutions Work
Making resolutions work involves changing behaviors—and in order to change a behavior, you have to change your thinking (or “rewire” your brain). Brain scientists such as Antonio Damasio, Joseph LeDoux, and psychotherapist Stephen Hayes have discovered, through the use of MRIs, that habitual behavior is created by thinking patterns that create neural lpathways and memories, which become the default basis for your behavior when you’re faced with a choice or decision. Change requires creating new neural pathways from new thinking.
If you feel compelled to make New Year’s resolutions, here’s some tips to help you make them work:
- Focus on one resolution, rather than several and set realistic, specific goals. Losing weight is not a specific goal. Losing X pounds in 90 days would be;
- Don’t wait till New Year’s eve to make resolutions. Make it a year long process, every day;
- Take small steps. Many people quit because the goal is too big requiring too much effort and action all at once;
- Have an accountability buddy, someone close to you to whom you have to report;
- Celebrate your success between milestones. Don’t wait the goal to be finally completed;
- Focus your thinking on new behaviors and thought patterns. You have to create new neural pathways in your brain to change habits;
- Focus on the present. What’s the one thing you can do today, right now, towards your goal?
- Be mindful. Become physically, emotionally and mentally aware of your inner state as each external event happens, moment-by-moment, rather than living in the past or future.
And finally, don’t take yourself so seriously. Have fun and laugh at yourself when you slip, but don’t let the slip hold you back from working at your goal.
By: Ray Williams